Check your own privacy settings and not just your kids

While it is critical that parents ensure their children’s privacy settings are set up correctly on social media accounts, this article is a great reminder that parents should check their own privacy settings on a regular basis. Many of us love to share photos of our children as they grow up. It is a great way to share with friends and family near and far. However, parents also have a responsibility to protect their children and this is one way that sometimes gets overlooked.  As stated in the article:

The campaign claims parents are running the risk of over-sharing and creating a digital footprint their child has no control over.

It only takes a minute to check your own privacy settings. Take that minute out of your week to ensure your child’s safety.

Great Super Bowl ad! Coke #MakeItHappy

While I find Coca Cola refreshing as a beverage, actually my favorite, this ad that they ran during the Super Bowl was even more refreshing as a worldwide message. This is one that everyone, from 5 years old to 95 years old can relate to.

The message that Coca Cola is trying to get it is described in this way:

With this ad Coca-Cola launches its #MakeItHappy campaign, which the company describes as a “movement to add more happiness to the Web and offset negativity.”

Take exactly one minute to view this and then take one more minute to show it to your kids!

Controversial new cyberbullying law in Illinois

As of January 1, 2015, Illinois law HB4207 went into effect. Illinois Government News Network describes it in these words:

House Bill 4207, sponsored by State Representative Laura Fine (D-Glenview) and State Senator Ira Silverstein (D-Chicago), prohibits bullying of students through technology outside the classroom or school. The law applies to devices not owned or used by a school, and requires a school’s anti-bullying policy to include an investigation for any act of bullying that causes a disruption to a school’s operations or educational process. This legislation expands on previous legislation signed by Governor Quinn which banned cyberbullying of students within schools. The new law takes effect Jan. 1, 2015.

Every coin has two sides. While the objective of the law is to protect children being bullied, there is controversy around the subject of student’s invasion of privacy, free speech and how much power a school should have. The prevailing question is whether it is legal for a school to require a student to turn over the passwords to social media during an investigation of harassment and bullying.

It cannot be argued that cyberbullying that is happening outside of school times has a direct and powerful impact on the victim DURING school hours. Cyberbullying cannot be separated by school hours.

Here are a few links to gain an understanding of the law and the arguments surrounding it.

Anti Bullying PSA Video: Don’t let it be too late

Do you have 45 seconds? Take 45 seconds of your day to watch this Anti Bullying PSA video. This PSA was created with teens reading real posts left on the social media sites of teenagers who have been bullied and ended their lives as a result. It is both raw and moving at the same time. The message…put a stop to bullying now and don’t let it be too late to put a beautiful message on a friend’s site.

 

 

Was Sony hack job a form of cyber bullying?

The topic certainly was one of the more popular ones of the various holiday gatherings that I attended. ‘Are you going to see The Interview?’ I heard that question numerous times. Everyone had thoughts and opinions on the hack job that is being called one of the greatest in history. The ideas and opinions expressed ranged from entertainment topics to political views to technology.

The one thing never mentioned was the idea of cyber bullying and how the hacking of Sony’s systems represents cyber bullying in one of its greatest forms. This editorial article says the following:

Let’s call this hacking what it was: an example of cyber bullying. Just as some children use computers and the Internet to deliberately harm others, the Guardians of Peace have used computers and the Internet to harm a corporation that did something they didn’t like.

Click here to read the full editorial 

Angelina Jolie Hires Cyber Security to Protect Her Kids Online – People.com

People.com – December 16, 2014

Her kids have shown that they are more than up to the task of stepping in for her on the red carpet, but like most parents, Angelina Jolie says she’s not sure if they’re prepared for the digital world. 

So how does the mother of six make sure her kids are safe on the Internet? 

“We have someone who monitors that,” Jolie, 39, told PEOPLE in this week’s cover story

Read the rest of the story by clicking here.

Angelina Jolie hires internet safety help

I don’t always agree with all of Angelina Jolie’s view points, but one thing that cannot be argued is her devotion and work ethic when it comes to raising her 6 children . Certainly her children have opportunities and privilege beyond what any other children have in this world.  However, this does not exempt them from the dangers of the internet. In fact, a very strong argument can be made that they are at a much higher risk of danger given there popularity. I applaud Angelina’s humbleness and ability to put her children’s safety as a top priority. Read People’s article describing the decision Angelina made to keep her children safe.

Buying a cellphone for your child? Android vs. iPhone

This is the 1st installment of a three part series related to choosing a smartphone for your child.

Are you feeling like the holiday season has completely snuck up on you? Didn’t we just finished cleaning out Thanksgiving leftovers from the fridge and now we are in a panic trying to get the perfect gifts for our children?

Many kids are either asking for their first mobile device or looking for a replacement for their current device. Most of the kids are fairly specific in which phone they want…iPhone, hands down. If you ask why it needs to be an iPhone, the reasons get rather vague.  I know this first hand as I just went through it with my 16 year old a month ago. He was insistent that it was iPhone or nothing. When I asked him why it could not be a state of the art Android, the response I received was ‘just because’. For most kids, the main reason that they want an iPhone is the same reason they need a Northface jacket….it’s popular, trendy, and what they know.

Before you go out and buy that iPhone 6, I challenge you to consider an Android device. You might feel like you don’t have a minute to spare researching the differences, but the work has been done for you. Take 5 minutes to read this comparison of iPhone vs. Android. It is a fair and easy to follow breakdown of the differences between the two types of devices: Android vs. iPhone for kids.

This article does a nice job of discussing the pros and cons of the two types of devices. In my opinion, the #1 reason to go Android over iPhone is because the Android provides the ability to use parental monitoring software. While the article mentions some specific software, I have found My Mobile Watchdog to be outstanding. I use this on my own my kids’ devices.

I have been asked many, many times about options for monitoring an iPhone. Some parents use the iCloud to see the texts that their children send. Other parents have tried to use ‘Jailbreak’ software to monitor the phone. Both of these options have so many limitations that they just aren’t worth it. At the end of the day nothing beats the functionality of software like My Mobile Watchdog if you are truly interested in keeping your child safe online.

Next installment will look at the functionality of My Mobile Watchdog in greater detail.

 

Did you know that there are apps that hide photos?

In light of the several sexting incidences in the news, like New Trier, I have been thinking about where kids, on their devices, might keep these pictures. Some kids may receive a sext, look at it, and delete it for fear of getting caught with the image in their possession. However, many kids have no desire to part with these precious images. So where in the world do they store them?

If you are a parent that periodically ‘checks’ your child’s phone so you can rest easy that your teen is safe and sound, don’t be so sure that you are seeing everything. There are many very slick apps out there. One such category of these apps are those that hide photos and require a password to get to it.

Obviously, one advantage that these apps provide to kids that have inappropriate photos in their possession is that they can move the photos into a password protected app and get them off the camera roll. However, another huge advantage to this app for the kids is that most parents have no idea that such apps even exist. Therefore, when you simply check your child’s photo roll to ensure he is acting appropriately, you many have no idea that that the vault icon you see is housing potentially life changing photos should your child ever get caught with them. Yes, life changing! Young teenagers, 13 and 14 years old, are being brought up on child pornography charges. Yes, life changing!

In no way am I saying that all our kids are liars and hiding nude pictures in their phones. Most, I hope, are not. However, just take a second to look at this link to Mashable.com so that you are at least familiar with what is out there. Be familiar with what these icons look like so that you recognize it should you see it on your child’s phone.  And of course, keep talking to your child, keep educating yourself, and pay attention. Remember, the ultimate goal is to keep our kids safe.

Six Basic Tips for Kids to Increase Their Online Safety

The most popular slide as part of my Internet Safety Curriculum to parents is titled ‘The Basics for Kids’. It is a slide that lists 6 quick and easy tips for kids that will increase their safety. Many people ask me for a copy of this particular slide. I decided that a quick blog entry listing these tips with an explanation would be very helpful to people. Here they are.

  1. Change your password after logging on to another device – Most operating systems remember passwords. When your child uses a friend’s device to log on to mail, social media, or an app, the operating system will remember the password. When a  few letters of the user name is entered, the rest of the user name appears and self populates both the user name and the password that goes with it. You can imagine the problems this can cause. Children change ‘best friends’ quickly and often leave some harsh feelings in their wake. The safest procedures to put in place is to teach your children to change a single letter or number in the password whenever they sign on to a device that is not their own. No need to get into a discussion about the status of the friendship. Just make it a hard and fast policy with no questions asked.
  2. Never give out personal information online – You certainly cannot remind your kids often enough about this rule. This includes, and certainly is not limited to, full name, age, location, phone number, family members’ names, etc. Along those same lines, remind them never to post vacation pictures. This is a clear sign that your house is empty and can be easily burglarized.
  3. Make sure location services is ‘off’ for the camera – There is a switch on every device that contains a camera called location services. When this is set to ‘on’, every picture and video captured with that device has metadata attached to the picture or video that provides location specific information, i.e. latitude and longitude coordinates of where the image was taken. When the pictures are posted to social media, that information about your child is readily accessible by people that you do not want knowing your child’s home address or hang out spots. You can keep location services on for applications that need it, like Google Maps, Gas Buddy, etc.
  4. Never share a password – Like #2, you cannot tell your child this tip often enough. ‘But Mom, she is my best friend!’ Friends come and friends go, especially at the ages of 10-18. The key is to get our kids to understand the power of the password and that the only people who are entitled to that power are themselves and parents.
  5. Password protect cell phones – Kids lose their phones, as well as get them stolen, very often. Similar to the power of the password, if someone picks up your child’s phone and it is unprotected, that person has the power of the password and can do very serious damage in your child’s name. One example of this is the story of the new girlfriend who picked up the boyfriend’s phone on a bus when he wasn’t looking. She texted the old girlfriend, posing as the boy, and said something like ‘I wish I never went out with you and I wish you would die.’ Unbelievable, I know, but it is a true story. The old girlfriend was found a day later after killing herself. Had that phone been password protected, that may not have happened.
  6. Add the app Fone Home to cell phones – Available for both iPhones and Androids, this web based app allows you to track your lost or stolen device. It has several interesting features including setting up a siren to help locate the device even if it is on vibrate, which can be helpful when the device is lost at a soccer field! Check it out: Fone Home. Here is a description of some of the features:

Fone Home featurs

Obviously, there are many tips we can use to keep both our kids safe and their devices safe. These are just a few. Please feel free to comment if you have some others that would be helpful to people.